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 Friday, 5. September 2008 01:14
I read the four agreements a few years ago...I forgot about it. It is a fantastic book, and makes what may seem to be the hardest task very simple to understand. Those 4 agreements are the pillars of change. Great choice!!
Thank you Sandy for your thoughts. You're on the right track too you just have to accept it.
The quotes I post some we shared with me and others I made from my own notes. I wanted to share them because I know the trap we fall in with our thoughts. I have pages and pages of quotes and I constantly read through them. It is about retraining our minds. We allowed our minds to get where we are and we can certainly change them for the positive.
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Thursday, 4. September 2008 23:47
Hello Tracy, You seem like you are on the right track.I still have issues I need to confront. 
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Thursday, 4. September 2008 23:00
I can relate to jealousy.Some times jealousy is caused when we allow our imaginations to run wild.We should not feel jealous unless we have reason to be suspicious.The thought of suspicions are thoughts placed in our heads if he says he will be right back and don't return home until 2 hrs later.But then he has an excuse he ran in to an old friend, but we can not prove any thing and the act of jealousy is not worth getting bent out of shape over when we have no proof and can find more positive things to think about.
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Thursday, 4. September 2008 21:45
I like Traci's postings. I would like to add the following:
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
1. Be Impeccable with Your Word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don't Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
I also like to collect positive quotes and partake in daily positive affirmations. Building my own self-esteem requires retraining myself in several areas of my life. The first being taking control of my thoughts and my emotions. That is what is working for me.
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Thursday, 4. September 2008 13:34
I am so happy to share my love and understanding. I believe, now, our strength comes from acceptance of what is and right now and the understanding that we are not our thoughts, we are not our ego, and we are not our past.
The Sedona Methid by Hale Dwoskin
"When we let go of wanting to change the way things are, we naturally move into greater acceptance."
"Let go of the feeling of wanting to change something that cannot be changed. Accept it as it is. When we feel hesitant to "let go" its often because we want to maintian control."
"The more we focus on what we don't want, the more likely we are to create it in our reality."
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Thursday, 4. September 2008 13:25
The Sedona Method by Hale Dwoskin.
"Most of us live in our thoughts, pictures, and stories about the past and the future, RATHER than being aware of how we feel in THIS MOMENT."
"Let go of the idea of wanting to change something or someone, and the unwanted pictures about what you were holding in your mind Will Dissolve."
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Thursday, 4. September 2008 12:32
Well done Sue for posting that you have been able to smile , your postings Traci , you seem such a strong minded person .... I need some of that .... I do hope all you who have fears and jealousy's can overcome them ....
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Thursday, 4. September 2008 08:59
Traci-Thank You! I received your private email and responded. My response, although, is somewhat disorganized so I hope you get the gist of what I'm saying!
My husband finds out if he gets that job today. Luckily, there's only 10% travel, so when that time gets around, I guess I'll worry about it then.
I wish my imagination would go away! But I'm still going to be happy for him if he gets the job, but I'll be wrought with worry, however.
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Wednesday, 3. September 2008 11:49
today has been a fairly good day, i have been able to smile a few times which doesnt happen very often!! 
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Tuesday, 2. September 2008 17:09
Quotes for thought:
"The non-assertive person believes things "happen" to him rather than thinking he has the POWER to do something about what may happen. The non-asssertive person lives his life worrying about what "others" may do- putting all his POWER in the hands of others."
"We all have inconsolable (grief-stricken, devastating) experiences from childhood. Most of these experiences are irreversible. TRUE HEALTH is in acceptance of these inconsolable experiences. We find FREEDOM when we no long look for consolation in anybody or anything. We accept these parts of ourselves that we cannot change. This leads to healing."
-Facing Your Fears by D. Richo
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Tuesday, 2. September 2008 05:56
Thank you, Ann-also for emailing me privately.
My husband has a wonderful interview today-a job he's always dreamed of. He worked hard to obtain his degree while raising his (16 yo) son (his ex-girlfriend has his 19 yo daughter-she's mentally and physically disabled). So, the job offers more pay and tons of benefits (which he doesn't have now.) The problem is that this job requires travel. I've already got him hooking up with women and staying at the hotels with him.
I feel SO bad about secretly hoping he doesn't get the job. I am so afraid someone will "get too friendly" with him. I do want him to get the job-but I know that it also means he'll be meeting new women every day.
I am 41, look 30 and very attractive for my age. I know I am smart. (I've been a paralegal for over 21 years, but I lost my job when I moved here to flee an abusive relationship). I am under so much stress as it is now not working and I am involved in two on-going lawsuits (one to gain my inheritance from an ex boyfriend. LONG story!)
I know he loves me very much and constantly tells me. God-he's so patient with me. I am torturing him-and myself!
I can't wait to start up with counseling again. I would be insured if he gets the job, too-both of us.
But I am making myself sick with worry.
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Monday, 1. September 2008 13:20
Quotes for thought:
Move away from "reacting" to what you don't want in your world and towards creating what you do want.
The universe love gratitude...Gratitude: the more you are grateful the more good you will get to e grateful about.
-Louise Hayes.
I recognized all the things I have been fearful of: independence, jealousy, insecurity. They were always in my thoughts and i always reacted towards them. Blaming my partner, invading his privacy, my actions were based on my thoughts of insecurity. And as long as i kept my thoughts there the world brought me all the events and opprotunities to experience it. So i stopped reacting. I recognized they were just thoughts and THEY ARE NOT ME AND HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH ME. I have redirected my thoughts that's my mission to stop reacting and redirect.
I am used to negative thoughts, and having my defenses up 24/7. It has taken its toll on me. So in all situations I find one thing to be grateful about. It is true you will get more to be grateful about if you can find a way to be grateful even the smallest things.
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Monday, 1. September 2008 13:11
Positive Affirmations for thought- I repeat them throughout the day.
"I am loving and loveable - all is well."
"I am one with the power that created me, and therefore I have the power to
create my own circumstances."
-From DVD "You Can Heal Your Life"
Louise Hayes
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Monday, 1. September 2008 00:41
Hello Pamela , I too am lonely. I have no work and having to try to find things to do every day really is getting me down. I do go for walks and stuff but on my own all the time is no fun. You're quite welcome to mail me.
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Sunday, 31. August 2008 23:35
Hello Christina, I agree with you as the old saying goes that we have to care of our selves before we take care of other people.
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