testimonials

We don't actively solicit testimonials, but many women like to keep in touch and tell us how they are getting on once they've started to work actively with us on their self-esteem.

Here are a few representative comments:

"Dear Alison, thank you for your letter. I'm not doing too badly, I have been right through my Self-esteem Starter Pack and my Jealousy eWorkbook and have started my Boosting Your Self-worth in Social Situations eWorkbook. I have found them very helpful and motivating so far. I am happy to say I got right through my entire Xmas work dinner/function, which both myself and my partner attended, without having to battle with my jealousy that would have normally taken complete control. I am quite proud of myself and so is my partner who is very supportive and shares in my efforts to improve myself. Couldn't be happier, thankyou for your wonderful website." Kirsty

"Hi Alison, thank you for thinking of me and checking if everything's OK. I am so thankful that I came across this website of yours! The eWorkbooks have really changed my whole outlook on life. I guess that's the kind of feedback you'd expect after putting so much effort, dedication and love into your Programs!! I was shocked to find out my self-esteem was as low as 39% (or maybe I wasn't so shocked...) but to find out that I had 61% untapped confidence made me feel great!!! In particular, your eWorkbook on jealousy has revolutionized the way I see my relationship - all this since last week! I read all of the eWorkbooks I bought really quickly because I was so excited that they actually work, but now I'm going to review each of them and take my time to complete the exercises that are meant to take a few weeks as I have such confidence in the outcomes. Thank you so much - I'm sure you hear that all the time - but for someone like me who felt so bad about myself, you have given me a ray of sunshine, which I hope to project to the world!!" Lucy x

"Hi Alison, good news today! I decided to take your advice and re-take the self-esteem test and I have managed to go up to 69%. So I've gone up 6% and I am really proud of myself. Also, I got a feedback letter from the university today about my course, which I passed. They said they enjoyed reading it and that I did well, so I'm pleased about that and I'm feeling great. By the way, I am half way through the Mastering the Art of Conversation eWorkbook now." Kelly

"Dear Alison, I thought your "missing ingredient" article was great. Very inspiring and truthful. I think that one of the most difficult things to teach children (I'm a teacher and a mother) is the emotional maturity to cope with failure as well as success. Life does not deal fairly to individuals. Some people seem to have more luck/talent/physical beauty than others at any time in our lives. It's learning to deal with this in a practical and confident way that is important. Then one can deal with our own success more healthily too. I have taken years to learn how to cope with my own jealousy and fear of other people being 'better' than me. I papered over my insecurities rather than facing them and dealing with the problem honestly. I have found your eWorkbooks both re-assuring and straight-forward and they have helped me to really face my problems in a healthy way. There are no easy tricks to gaining a greater and more realistic love and respect of yourself. Thanks for your help. I feel I can also counsel the children I work with in a more productive way too. Yours sincerely," Kate

"Hi Alison, I have gone through the Self-esteem Starter Pack twice. I have done the 'Mastering The Art of Conversation' and 'Putting a WOW Back into your Wardrobe'. I am currently doing the 'Seeking and Celebrating Success' Program. When I first started I thought it wouldn't do any good. But that's because I didn't really do the work that was required of me. Now I have redone the Self-esteem Starter Pack and the other Programs with the work I'm supposed to do and I can feel the difference. Obviously, I still have a long way to go. Just yesterday I was a disaster in a social situation and I mentally kicked myself. But after I got over the anger with myself, I was quite pleased for putting myself out there. Usually in social situations I stay in the corner because I don't think I'm capable of making interesting contributions. However, yesterday, I didn't hide in a social situation I SPOKE. My conversation was not the most sparkling but at least I didn't hide. I did the wardrobe exercises, and that is where I have noticed the biggest change. I have always wanted to dress a certain way, and thought I would look like a fraud. I got rid of a lot of stuff. I have only bought a couple of new things, however I don't feel as dowdy and unattractive as I used to. I still have body issues to resolve but I have made a step. I am going to check out the Confidence Cafe now; and hope to be inspired even more. Thank you." (name withheld)

"Hi! Wow...I joined not to long ago and I already notice a difference in how I see things in the world. I am less afraid to stand up for who I am and what I believe in. Thank you so much! There is still so much more for me to learn but I know that your website will help me! THANKS!" Dana

"Dear Alison, I just wanted to thank you so much for all of your helpful e-mails. It makes me feel like I have so much support and am not alone. Thank you for caring and creating help for women in the area of self-esteem. I'm enjoying the eWorkbooks I got from you online. One of the things I love the most is that they're fun. I like having to take the time to think and answer questions and put things in my calendar and so much more. It's not at all boring because it's more than just reading. You are a great person for what you're doing to change so many lives and I really appreciate the difference you're making in mine. Sincerely," Lisa

"Alison, the web site has been a blessing. I have been working on the self-help eWorkbooks and found them very easy and helpful. Just in the few days since I have started them I can already feel a difference. I have been checking into the web site and reading the articles and found those to be great too. I found it to be such a relief to know exactly what areas I was lacking as this makes it so much easier to help myself and feel like a whole woman again. I have also made a new friend from selfesteem4women, she read a post I put in the confidence Cafe and emailed me. We have been trading emails for a few weeks now and have really found that we can help each other a lot too. As we both bought eWorkbooks and are able to discuss our progress. I can not thank you enough for your web site and your wisdom. THANK YOU!!!" Lori

"Hello Again! I just have to tell you how elated I am with my most recent purchase, "Tackling Jealousy". Everything I have read so far has been so helpful and I can relate to all of the situations and feelings. This is a wonderful and feel good book, I can already feel good about the positive changes I am going to try and make. Thank you again so much. I couldn't be happier with this book. I just hope that I will have the strength to apply them to the situations when they come up! Peace and Love," Kris

"Dear Alison, thank you so much for making a difference in the world by helping women and humans in general! I really love your eWorkbooks, web-site, and the simplicity of it. I think I'm doing better after I finished reading the Self-esteem Starter Pack and am almost done with "Finding Permanent Cure for your Worries" eWorkbook. I'll keep going and I know that my life will change for the best. P.S. I haven't had any problems with downloads from your site as of this time. I also checked www.diasa.com and love it! Best," Diana

"Hi Alison, thankyou for your support. I really appreciate it and it makes me feel very comfortable for deciding to act my issues after procrastinating for so long! Just making that very first move of buying the eWorkbooks made such a huge difference to me. As a registered nurse with experience in counselling, all this information is stuff I am familiar with but never had it dawned on me that I would have to implement these skills on myself thus this way of thinking is so simple but difficult to attain in a moment of anxiety! I feel that your service is fantastic. I am back at the gym after slacking off for 3 weeks and looking forward to my next social event rather than dreading it. My big test will be when I finish the Tackling Jealousy eWorkbook as I feel that is one of my biggest problems. My partner is already making comments about how I appear so much happier! It's great." Leanne xxx

"Dear Alison and Customer Service Staff: I just wanted to say thank you for the refurbishing on the Confidence Café. It had become a place that I no longer wanted to visit, due to the extensive chatting back and forth between certain individuals. Now with the limit on responses, one has to choose when a comment is going into the Café - instead of a comment for every entry. Plus, I feel that the only ones qualified to give "advice" are the Customer Service people and or you. We certainly can express our opinions and what has helped us, but that is as far as it should go. It truly is a wonderful place you have created for the multitude of issues that us women face on a day to day basis. The eWorkbooks have given me guidance in looking at my particular issues in a new light. Plus, I am sure that having that one-on-one with you is also a fabulous feature for many who have no other outlet. To me, it is important to recognize and acknowledge especially another woman who is trying to help and offer support to others. Too often we hear loudly the negative comments, but the positive responses are whispered quietly to ourselves. So from one individual that has benefited greatly from your eWorkbooks and columns in the eZine publication, "thank you and your staff" and keep up the great work. Sincere regards," Lindy

"Dear Alison, I have been a member for about a year, bought many eWorkbooks, all of which have been changing me bit by bit. I have done a month's coaching with you a few months ago (about career choices) - this exceeded my expectations (I am a sceptic!), & I usually scan the articles that come through on e-mail, but this one is just so beautifully written. I feel I am a long way down the line now & this article made me think 'yes, I am a very tall poppy now & I am very much enjoying the sunshine!' Oh, & just another coincidence, my daughter is called Poppy & at 18 months is already very tall for her age! I shall keep your motto regarding tall poppies to show her one day. Thank you for helping me re-affirm some promises to myself." Judy xxx

"Hello Alison, thank you for your message. I'm actually getting on better than I would have thought possible. I logged on in sheer desperation after a particularly bloody day at work when my self esteem was at an all time low even for me. I won't bore you with the details but things were not very good. I visited your website to browse and stayed to learn. I thought your Self-esteem Starter Pack was excellent - focused and relevant. I enjoyed working through it and I was easily able to translate the advice and info to my own circumstances. I hesitate to sound like a television advert, but the improvement was almost instantaneous! The circumstances of my life have not changed, but my ability to recognise and deal with issues is - so far - considerably improved. I can now recognise what is happening and take steps to deal with it. My behaviour has changed, I think for the better and I can now even take time out to try to forsee oncoming events and think how best to deal with them. In other words, ACT - not react. I have applied for a new job and been selected for interview. Instead of falling to pieces in a welter of "Oh my God what have I done? Are you out of your mind? You can't do this job - what were you thinking? ....." I now find I am looking forward to the experience. I hope this feedback has been of some use to you. Thank you for your kind enquiry. Regards," Sue

"Hi Alison, thanks for your email and especially for coming up with this great idea of a web site for women and self esteem issues. I have purchased four of the eWorkbooks and I am half way through the second one. I just finished more law exams so now I can devote more time to myself. I think your eWorkbooks are fantastic. I have done a lot of soul searching and psychoanalysis and, although this has been very good for my cause, I was getting a little tired of just talking and I really wanted to start taking some action. Your practical approach is just what I have been looking for. Thanks again for setting this all up. You're making a huge difference! Take care," Simone

"Hello Alison, thank you for your wonderful advice. By reading your article: "Brilliant Things to Say to Your Boss" and "Merit" I found out things about myself that I need to change. During my whole life I hide my feelings when I got angry and my only reaction was to remain quiet, with my husband, friends, kids or co-workers and of course with my boss. Now I see I have the right to say what I think and I can do it in a positive way. The word "merit" is something that I didn't think applied to me. I always thought that when I succeed it was by chance and when I fail, it was my fault. I need to recognize that I have done really good things in life. I enjoy reading the letters you receive, for it shows me that women all over the world have the same feelings, hopes, expectations and also fears and pain. Scars that from time to time still bleed. But we also have in common the desire to grow! To improve, to overcome any challenges we find in our life. From Bolivia, South America, I send my best regards to all of you and my gratefulness to Alison!" Malena

"Alison, thank you for the concerned email! I am feeling better after reading the website, and taking some tips from the Confidence Cafe. I have made a few new pals to chat with and look foward to their emails daily. They seem to have positive feedback for me and are a great source of encouragement! As for your site, as I mentioned in my posting in the Cafe, I am so thankful you have taken the time to create such a place for women! The site is virtually "idiot proof" with me being an example. I was able to navigate quite easily through each part of your site. Thanks again," Lisa

"Alison, I want to thank you for your support for me and for all women everywhere who sometimes fail to recognize our own "merit". Last week, I committed myself to walk the 3Day; a 3 day, 20 miles per day walk to help battle breast cancer. Normally, I'd have been terrified of trying something like this, but after registering, donating and talking to others, I find myself looking forward to it. My self esteem is on the rise and also, my own ability to help others instead of focusing on just me has come into play. Your website is a wonderful place to reconnect and allow all of us to get inside ourselves to find out who we are and what a difference we make in our lives and others. God Bless." Liry

"To the Self Esteem 4 Women Team: I've been a member now for about 4 months now and can really feel the difference your site and all your help has had on my life. I feel that I have a better outlook on life now, a more real one. Now if I feel like I am getting down, I don't beat myself up about it. I know I have something to look forward to in life and that is to pass on to others what I have learned so far...I am reaching a point where I now realize that my family and I do deserve to be happy. I don't have to look or expect for things to be hard...I will continue to recommend this site to anyone that will listen and that will be willing to check it out. Thanks so much for everything..... " Ruthie E

"I love your workbooks! When I read them, I feel like I'm listening to my best friend talking to me and almost every situation described in the workbooks fits my life to a T. I am grateful for getting the books because it's allowed me to take a good look at myself and actually do something about myself besides sitting around helplessly. The books have really prevented me from falling into that desperate state of mind that I don't ever want to fall into again. Thank you so much Alison! You've brought so much hope and happiness to me and many women out there. I also wanted to let you know that your eZine is great and I can't wait to receive the next one." Janice

"I have read through both ebooks and already they have helped me with my jealousy. My jealousy was more about being able to trust the men in my life and I was miserable when I had the feelings of jealousy and my friend must have been too because now we are much happier already. I can't believe I've waited this long to find you! Thank you for helping me to sort myself out. I'm sure with my next relationship, even if it doesn't happen for years, I'll be able to go into it with confidence and trust!" Chris

"Purchasing and downloading the eWorkbooks was easy. Printing them out took a number of evenings to complete. Makes perfect sense not to bother with the printing and shipping, plus, it's neat to just print it out and get started." Judith

"Your booklets have given me a plan to move forward, given me a game plan, helped me to practice applying the things I'm learning and given me the tools/resources to move forward. I started with "Your Personal Self-Esteem Starter Pack" which gave me guidance, objectives and goals. When you are hurting inside, it's not always easy to see clearly. I've read and done the exercises in two of the booklets I ordered which are "Obtaining the emotional support you need" and "Finding a Permanent Cure for your worries". Both of these have given me courage, strength and happiness in a short period of time. I'm just starting on "Establishing boundaries that work for you". I can see it's helpful to understanding and overcoming fears and retaining control, not allowing outside forces to bring you down. I'm already feeling quite a bit better. I can see that I do have more control over my own happiness already. I am glad their are women such as yourself who reach out to others. This type of information touches hearts more than even you yourself probably know. Thank you again and also for your follow-up." Sandy

"I want to thank you very much for the work that you are doing for all of us. This is simply the most important workshop Ive ever done, and possibly the answer to all my prayers." Carolina

"First, let me say THANK YOU! I really have gotten a lot out of the one workbook I have been able to read thus far. I consider myself an educated person, but when it comes to self-esteem, I really was lacking. I'll let you know how it goes as I progress, but so far I REALLY enjoy what you have had to share with me. And feel free to publish my comments. I'd be happy to let others know that your website is the best!
Thanks again." Stacie

"I've read the starter package and, must confess, that the tone and exercises are bang on for me". Lynne

"First of all I'd like to say that my experience with selfesteem4women.com has been exactly what I expected and needed. I haven't had any problems so far, and downloading the eWorkbooks was a cinch. I just wanted to say thank you for the rapid response and the wonderful advice. It was both truthful and helpful. I am looking forward to putting your advice to good use. Wish me luck!" Iris

"Thank you for the follow-up to a wonderful program and your sincere welcome." Cheryl

"I did notice an immediate change from just reviewing the Starter Pack. When faced with several different types of situations, I 'checked' my self-esteem and was able to stand taller in the face of adversity. Keep checkin' in - it's a great reminder for me!" Catherine

"I've read all five of the programs I've downloaded so far. I love them. They're great. They're simple, very interesting and very practical. I do appreciate the information and positive focus. After two days I already feel better, more in control. The workbooks are full of lots of useful practical insight, advice and ideas. They have been very good clarification and inspiration to me. I've even got my husband reading them! I plan to read them all again. Thank you." Mary Ellen

"I had reached a state of complete burnout - dealing with school and the many negative relationships I allowed myself to foster. Last month I decided I just couldn't allow myself to feel this way any longer and vowed to re-invent myself from the inside on out. My first step aside from getting to know God, putting myself first, and resting, was utilizing this site and the starter pack and program for worriers. And let me tell you - I haven't been this fulfilled and haven't felt this great in years! I have always wanted to feel this way but didn't know how - I want to encourage everyone to put her foot down and re-invent herself!" Kendra

"I'm 32 and work in a call center for my sins! I've just signed up for the seeking and celebrating success program because, guess what, I don't want to work in a call centre all my life!! Anyway, the reason I'm writing this is because I had a problem using the site yesterday and sent in an email asking for help and I got a great response within minutes from Steve, Technical Support. It's rare to get a techy who actually cares about you and Steve made me feel like he did so I just want to embarrass him and say thanks!!! [The only benefit of working in a call-centre is that I know how rare it is to get positive feedback so I try to give it out when I think someone deserves it.]" Janice

"First of all, I love your website! And I just finished reading Mastering the Art of Conversation. It's wonderful. I'm going to put all the advice into practice!" Anita

"I just wanted to say that I love you're website. I am also enjoying the workbooks and learning so much about myself. I have always struggled with low self-esteem, but I'm finally starting to feel better about myself. You are certainly welcome to use my comments for testimonials. I have nothing but the highest regard for your website and the help you are offering to so many women. Thank you again." Kristin

"I am very glad I was able to find your site and get the books to read on the subjects I am having difficulty with. I also enjoy the fact that your site checks in and e-mails me little notes to keep my mind focused and to remind me how important this is. Sometimes day to day activities consume you and you forget for a bit that you need to have a positive attitude and focus on what is important." Susan

"I took the plunge and bought 3 ebooks from the Creating a positive self-image section. I keep dipping into them and getting really excited because there's so many things that I can change and they are not so difficult to do. I really wish somebody had taught me this stuff years ago but better late than never hey? I suppose we're all learning different things always - filling in gaps as we go along. Good Luck to everyone." Alex

"The Finding A Permanent Cures For Your Worries eWorkbook is really great - I think it's the best one out of those I bought. Although the starter pack was ace too...that really cleared up some stupid stuff in my head." Melissa

"I took my test and scored a 50%, this didn't surprise me at all, I have such a problem with jealousy and that prompted my research on the web for a site as this. I am happy that I was able to take this test and read/work in the workbooks. I am feeling so much better already." Stacie

"Thank you for your email - its nice to know you care! I have been reading my workbooks but I have not been through all of them yet. However, I would like to say that so far I have found both the level of service and the content to be excellent. If I have any further questions I will certainly contact you in the future and I have already recommended your website to some friends." Cate

"First of all, I want to let you know that I really appreciate your website and I do enjoy getting these support letters from you. I didn't expect such personal attention! I have already gone through the Starter Pack (I plan to review it frequently) and the two eWorkbooks that I ordered (Seeking and Celebrating Success & Finding a Permanent Cure for Your Worries). I have found all of these to be very helpful to me. I have had some new insights after going through the exercises. You have a way of explaining things that really makes sense to me. I feel at least a little bit better about myself." Susan

"Thank you for your letter. I really enjoy receiving these little letters as they continue to give me the motivation. Although I haven't been working on my selfesteem for very long, I have noticed a difference already and I think that this is an excellent site to help women in life. My marriage has been suffering because of my insecurites and continuing with these self improvment programs can only make my marriage a happier one. We have two children and they are the ones suffering from this. My husband is being very supportive as he can take my insecurities no more." Once again Selfesteem4women is an excellent site. You are a godsend to women who need the courage and support to overcome low self esteem and be the people we want to be." Lyn

"I still have 2 more workbooks to go through but this website has been so amazing. Thanks everyone at selfesteem4women for coming up with the wonderful website." Stacey

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